{"id":321,"date":"2014-06-13T23:03:40","date_gmt":"2014-06-13T23:03:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/?p=321"},"modified":"2014-06-13T00:28:54","modified_gmt":"2014-06-13T00:28:54","slug":"who-made-this-shit-up-stud-rules-and-why-they-suck","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/?p=321","title":{"rendered":"Who made this shit up?! Stud &#8220;rules&#8221; and why they suck"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 After much conversation about this topic with my stud friends I think it\u2019s time to delve in to the sticky sweet waters which is \u201cstuddom\u201d. I feel it\u2019s a quagmire of a topic because there are so many unwritten crazy rules to the game that are somehow in concrete yet concurrently fluid. Being a ladyboy lover myself I know there are some difficulties I\u2019ve encountered breaking \u201crules\u201d that were unknown to me and it\u2019s been frustrating to say the least. I think this is a problem that plagues the black lesbian community more than other lesbian communities because for some strange reason we are often hung up on maintaining heteronormative gender roles despite both parties being female (baby, there\u2019s no need for one of us to be the \u201cMan\u201d in the relationship). Let me go on record and say no part of me wants to identify as a stud, dom, AG etc; so I don\u2019t relate to feeling the need to exert my dominance in a relationship outside of being a Boss Ass Bitch. Most of my friends are more masculine than I am just because a lot of feminine chicks tend to be too catty for me. Today we will discuss some unwritten rules of Studdom and why it\u2019s silly.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Silly Ass Unwritten Stud Commandments and why they should get them the FOH<\/strong><br \/>\nThou shall not have a wrap hair style or tracks &#8211; why not?! If Mama wants her hair to flow in the wind or to look like Vampire in Brooklyn let her do her thing<\/li>\n<li>Studs shall not walk through a door that\u2019s held upon by a femme. What kind of fuckshit is this?! Ain\u2019t you a woman? Don\u2019t you deserve to be treated like a lady?<\/li>\n<li>Thou shall not get penetrated- that\u2019s silly as fuck- vaginas are built to receive so if a ladyboy wants her hole to be filled by fingers or a faux penis that\u2019s her and her mates business. I personally don\u2019t crave penis and get frustrated when its insinuated that it\u2019s my job to take the D!<\/li>\n<li>Studs shall not show emotion- FUCK THAT! I don\u2019t even accept that from men. If you feel a way let it be known: you\u2019re hurt? Say ouch! You sad bitch?! Cry!!<\/li>\n<li>Thou shall no get any pleasure. STOP IT! let me kiss on it&#8230; she dont be bored?!<br \/>\nAs the more masculine partner you must do the holding, never shall you be the little spoon. BITCH PLEASE! I will little spoon you and hold you like I\u2019m the \u201cnigga\u201d quick- I like a little something for me to hold as a drift into a slumber<br \/>\nAGs shouldn\u2019t wear makeup- if mama wants beat to her face that\u2019s her business! A lot of yall could benefit from a spot concealer regimine!<\/li>\n<li>Thou shall not hug your stud brethren as you do your feme sisteren- bull shit. If you\u2019re happy to see your good judy give that ho a hug!<\/li>\n<li>Studliness will be under scrutiny if thou dates another masculine identified females\u2026. I get it it\u2019s not \u201cheteronormative\u201d however, no matter the wrapper its still a woman! How is it that two femes is hot and two studs is frowned upon?! DUMB!!! Love is love and we can\u2019t expect the world to accept our community if we reject parts of it!!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Go out and shake some shit up- hell \u201clabels are for clothes, not people\u201d right? Let\u2019s not perpetuate this silly cycle of goofy ass rules. Be you,matter of fact be unapologetically you- you wanna wear boxer briefs AND a full face beat go on witcha badself!! You like to be penetrated? That\u2019s cool it\u2019s your vag get what you like! I hold these truths to be self-evident . Again, we can\u2019t talk equality and acceptance with the masses if we can\u2019t achieve it at home.<\/p>\n<p>my feelings are best expressed through song- kinda&#8230;. lol<br \/>\nbasically just free YOUR MIND!<br \/>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/i7iQbBbMAFE\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 After much conversation about this topic with my stud friends I think it\u2019s time to delve in to the sticky sweet waters which is \u201cstuddom\u201d. I feel it\u2019s a quagmire of a topic because there are so many unwritten crazy rules to the game that are somehow in concrete yet concurrently fluid. Being a ladyboy lover myself I know there are some difficulties I\u2019ve encountered breaking \u201crules\u201d that were unknown to me and it\u2019s been frustrating to say the least. I think this is a problem that plagues the black lesbian community more than other lesbian communities because for some strange reason we are often hung up on maintaining heteronormative gender roles despite both parties being female (baby, there\u2019s no need for one of us to be the \u201cMan\u201d in the relationship). Let me go on record and say no part of me wants to identify as a stud, dom, AG etc; so I don\u2019t relate to feeling the need to exert my dominance in a relationship outside of being a Boss Ass Bitch. Most of my friends are more masculine than I am just because a lot of feminine chicks tend to be too catty for me. Today we will discuss some unwritten rules of Studdom and why it\u2019s silly. Silly Ass Unwritten Stud Commandments and why they should get them the FOH Thou shall not have a wrap hair style or tracks &#8211; why not?! If Mama wants her hair to flow in the wind or to look like Vampire in Brooklyn let her do her thing Studs shall not walk through a door that\u2019s held upon by a femme. What kind of fuckshit is this?! Ain\u2019t you a woman? Don\u2019t you deserve to be treated like a lady? Thou shall not get penetrated- that\u2019s silly as fuck- vaginas are built to receive so if a ladyboy wants her hole to be filled by fingers or a faux penis that\u2019s her and her mates business. I personally don\u2019t crave penis and get frustrated when its insinuated that it\u2019s my job to take the D! Studs shall not show emotion- FUCK THAT! I don\u2019t even accept that from men. If you feel a way let it be known: you\u2019re hurt? Say ouch! You sad bitch?! Cry!! Thou shall no get any pleasure. STOP IT! let me kiss on it&#8230; she dont be bored?! As the more masculine partner you must do the holding, never shall you be the little spoon. BITCH PLEASE! I will little spoon you and hold you like I\u2019m the \u201cnigga\u201d quick- I like a little something for me to hold as a drift into a slumber AGs shouldn\u2019t wear makeup- if mama wants beat to her face that\u2019s her business! A lot of yall could benefit from a spot concealer regimine! Thou shall not hug your stud brethren as you do your feme sisteren- bull shit. If you\u2019re happy to see your good judy give that ho a hug! Studliness will be under scrutiny if thou dates another masculine identified females\u2026. I get it it\u2019s not \u201cheteronormative\u201d however, no matter the wrapper its still a woman! How is it that two femes is hot and two studs is frowned upon?! DUMB!!! Love is love and we can\u2019t expect the world to accept our community if we reject parts of it!! \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Go out and shake some shit up- hell \u201clabels are for clothes, not people\u201d right? Let\u2019s not perpetuate this silly cycle of goofy ass rules. Be you,matter of fact be unapologetically you- you wanna wear boxer briefs AND a full face beat go on witcha badself!! You like to be penetrated? That\u2019s cool it\u2019s your vag get what you like! I hold these truths to be self-evident . Again, we can\u2019t talk equality and acceptance with the masses if we can\u2019t achieve it at home. my feelings are best expressed through song- kinda&#8230;. lol basically just free YOUR MIND!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[2,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-321","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-as-i-see-it","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4HIFu-5b","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/321","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=321"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/321\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":326,"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/321\/revisions\/326"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=321"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=321"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=321"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}