{"id":445,"date":"2014-10-28T23:52:12","date_gmt":"2014-10-28T23:52:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/?p=445"},"modified":"2014-10-30T03:11:32","modified_gmt":"2014-10-30T03:11:32","slug":"love-with-no-contingencies-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/littlemisslesbo.com\/?p=445","title":{"rendered":"Love with no contingencies"},"content":{"rendered":"

con\u00b7tin\u00b7gen\u00b7cy<\/strong> noun<\/em><\/p>\n

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  1. a future event or circumstance that is possible but cannot be predicted with certainty.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    “a detailed contract that attempts to provide for all possible contingencies”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
    :<\/em><\/td>\nsynonymseventuality<\/a>,\u00a0(chance) event,\u00a0incident<\/a>,\u00a0happening<\/a>,\u00a0occurrence<\/a>,\u00a0juncture<\/a>,possibility<\/a>,\u00a0fortuity<\/a>,\u00a0accident<\/a>,chance<\/a>,\u00a0emergency<\/a>“we’ve tried to imagine and provide for all possible contingencies”<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

    o\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 a provision for an unforeseen event or circumstance. “a contingency reserve” o\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 an incidental expense. “allow an extra fifteen percent in the budget for contingencies”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

    I thought to myself how great would it be to be loved with NO contingencies? The sentence should be \u201cI will love you\u201d not \u201cI will love you if\u2026.\u201d Or \u201cif you love me\u2026.\u201d Have I loved? fuck yes! Have I been in love? You bet your sweet ass! But have I experienced those with no contingencies? No ma\u2019am! I don\u2019t believe love should be a tradeoff thing. Meaning If I love you I should expect nothing in return and vice versa. I\u2019m not asking for a limitless love because we all have our limits, hell I\u2019m not even asking for a love that\u2019s unconditional I only expect that from my Mother.\u00a0 Every single Little Miss I\u2019ve introduced y\u2019all too has had a contingency I couldn\u2019t comply with. I\u2019m not talking normal things like faithfulness, loyalty, and respect\u2026. I\u2019m talking the fuck shit I\u2019ve encountered.<\/p>\n

    Little Miss Better Late than Never<\/em><\/strong>– If you love me you\u2019ll allow me time to figure out if this new acquaintance is worth my romantic energy or not.-No ma\u2019am! Not today- or any day\u2026 and I will be honest with you guys I tried to get with it. But no part of me is with that particular type of fuckery. Polyamory is not and has never has been my jam<\/p>\n

    Little Miss Baby Gap<\/strong><\/em>– I love you so you should take care of me- In all fairness baby girl was just that\u2026 A BABY GIRL! She was looking for a fuckable Mom figure and I had no desire to teach a young lesbian the ropes. While paying bills and working full time.<\/p>\n

    Little Miss Asshole<\/strong><\/em>-If you love me you will forget that I punched you in your face for no logical<\/strong> reason.<\/p>\n

    Little Miss Crazytown<\/strong><\/em>– You Love me so much\u2026.. put up with my bullshit (not naming for reasons she knows)<\/p>\n

    Little Miss One Who Got Away<\/strong><\/em>-because I know you love me STILL I will expect you to be my here when these \u00a0hoes who were never worth my time hurt me.<\/p>\n

    Growing and forgiveness has allowed me to see these women and their contingencies for exactly what they were\u2026. WEAPONS of DESTRUCTION. I was blinded by a simple phrase one that is misused far too often “I love you”. Had I been a weak woman or unwise I would have allowed these women to change my heart into a loveless wasteland forever- but being the resilient woman\u00a0I am\u2026 I bounced back. My feelings are best expressed through song-Sorry \u00a0no official video but this song is IT!!